Dating is a gamble. You never really know if the person you’ve met is being themselves or if they really want you or just what you have to offer. This episode of Which Cup is Mine begins with Garcia and SunAh talking about ways that people do the most in dating especially as it comes to trying to impress. Always ones to turn up the heat, the conversation then turns to the question: in dating, what’s your price? The answer isn’t always about money, as the duo point out, but of course the two dive into the topic of tricking. The episode closes with a conversation about tricking versus being generous versus being finessed and advice on how to know which category you may be falling into.
It’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. On Episode 3 of Season 2, Garcia and SunAh break down the do’s and don’t’s of disagreeing with your mate. The episode begins with each of them talking about their need to always be right and how that has affected their relationships in the past. The two then share how they’ve approached differences of opinion in their relationship with each other and ways you can have a disagreement without making personal attacks. In a surprise confession, Garcia reminds SunAh of the one time they had an argument. Find out what it was about and who could not swallow their pride. The episode ends with advice on what to do if you and your mate cannot stop arguing and if those verbal disagreements turn physical.
On this episode of Which Cup is Mine, Garcia and SunAh talk about their experiences with interracial dating. Both have had multiple experiences dating outside of their race – but for one of duo, this was the first time that they brought their partner home to meet their parents and for good reason. Find out why. The two share some of the challenges and stereotypes in dating cross-racially as well as comments they’ve heard from friends and family. SunAh divulges some shocking news around her perspective on dating outside of her race. The episode ends with a piece of advice for people in interracial relationships.
Season 2 of Which Cup is Mine podcast begins with Garcia and SunAh discussing racism in America. We have all been witness to the countless murders of Black people by police and most recently we have seen global uprisings in defense of Black lives and the eradication of anti-Blackness. On this episode, Garcia and SunAh discuss systemic racism and its effects in the criminal justice system, education, and hiring, among other areas of our lives. They also reflect on the current movement for Black lives.
For more on how you can get involved in the movement for Black lives or resources for understanding anti-Blackness, visit blacklivesmatters.carrd.co
Season 1 of Which Cup is Mine podcast ends with a special guest: hip hop artist, producer, song writer, author, pastor, your neighborhood hope dealer – Mr. Delmar Lawrence aka Mr. Del. Bringing all of his relationship expertise to the podcast, Mr. Del delves into love, lies, and of course soul ties. After breaking down what soul ties are and how they are created, Mr. Del explains the importance of creating a culture within your relationship.
The podcast then takes a detour from romantic relationships to talk about Mr. Del’s time with Three 6 Mafia. Mr. Del gives a quick history lesson on the early Memphis rap scene including how he got signed to Three 6 Mafia, the story behind his most infamous hit song “Azz & Tittiez,” and what led him to leave the group in the middle of their national tour. As you can imagine, all of these past experiences affected his dating life.
Of course, it wouldn’t be Which Cup is Mine without getting all in Mr. Del’s dating business! Mr. Del keeps it transparent as he shares how his family life shaped his outlook on romantic relationships. Garcia and Mr. Del talk about the generational curses that they are breaking and one of the common mistakes women make in dating. In case you are wondering, Mr. Del is single, and in this episode he shares what’s on his “list” for the type of woman he’s looking for. The episode ends with Mr. Del giving advice on what is needed to have a healthy, whole relationship.
For more about the Soul Ties book series, the Soul Ties podcast, and to register for the FREE “When Men Worship” online conference happening on Father’s Day, click the link in Mr. Del’s Instagram bio @soultiestrilogy and go to dellawrence.com
In this episode Garcia and SunAh tackle a tricky topic – falling in love. What does it mean to fall in love, can you grow to be in love with someone, what about being in love with two people at the same time? The two begin by sharing how they know they’ve been “in love” before discussing if you can grow to love someone. They also identify some real life couples they see as couple goals. The episode ends with each of them giving advice on how to know if the love is gone.
How important is communication in a relationship? In this episode, Garcia and SunAh share some reasons why they haven’t been great communicators in the past – sometimes it’s a matter of respect other times you don’t want to hurt the person’s feelings. Are there certain topics that should or should not be discussed when dating? If you should talk about them, how do you know when it’s the right time? The two run down some topics that they think should be communicated and how they’ve approached the issues including living together, finances, love languages, weddings, and health history. They also discuss their unique approach to addressing issues in their relationship. The episode ends with each giving tips for communicating with the opposite sex.
Does sex on the first night ruin your chances for a relationship? Garcia and SunAh talk about giving it up on the first night – the pros, the cons, and one big misconception. Garcia reasons if you’re going to have sex anyways, why not do it on the first night? Because one thing is for certain: sex on the first night might not end a relationship but bad sex definitely can. The two share how far into dating they were before they had sex and how things might have been different if they would have had sex on the first night.
On Episode 12 of Which Cup is Mine, Garcia and SunAh discuss a sensitive subject: money. Even though everyone has some idea of how they expect finances should be handled in a relationship or, if and when you should live together, most people don’t talk about it until it’s too late. Garcia and SunAh talk about their experiences with splitting the bills and cohabitating and what they would do moving forward. The episode closes with an even sticker situation when Garcia asks: if the person you were in a relationship lost their job, would you let them live with you?
Garcia and SunAh turn up the heat on Episode 11 as they answer the question: have you ever dated someone who was in a relationship or married? While most people wouldn’t publicly discuss such a taboo subject, the two bare it all. Find out how each of them came to be the side piece, who feels no remorse, and how they approach playing your position. The episode ends with a lively debate on how they could spice up their relationship without either of them having a side piece of their own.